Erica Desper, Bernadette Samuels and Amelia Kinsolving are moms supporting moms (and all parents) on the path to better sleep and smoother potty training, since 2010. Confident Parenting was named “Best” and "Family Favorite" resource by the Main Line Parent, Bucks County Parent and Philadelphia Family communities in 2022, their 9th and 10th and 11th accolade from parents! Meet the team here.
How Long Is This Going To Take? Potty Training Edition
Let's Talk About It...

We often speak with parents who are interested in support to tackle potty-training. This conversation often drifts to "How long is this going to take?" Some families will mention they have "One day between work commitments to get this done." Or "We can do one weekend." Let's talk about that...
One of the most important things you can do before approaching this process is get your head in the game. If your expectations are not aligned with what your child's process might look like, you/they will not get through it. Here are 3 things to keep in mind before you dive in:
This is a MAJOR MILESTONE for your kiddo. Much like walking, there is no way to know or dictate how long it will take from introduction to mastery. How many little ones have you seen learn to fully walk in one day - or even several days - & not have a misstep once they do?
Potty training is a PROCESS, not an "event". Your kiddo will need time to process the steps involved, possibly grieve the loss of the old way of doing things, and learn to notice and heed their bodily sensations, even when there are "better" things to do. This will not happen quickly in most cases. If you feel pressured to get this "done" in a set amount of time, especially an unrealistic amount of time, you will pile a huge amount of pressure on your child and the process. And guess what? Muscles need to be relaxed to release. So giving off an anxious, hurried, desperate vibe will shut everything down.
Comfort starts at home.
Meaning, if your kiddo hasn't had enough time to grasp the concept and feel comfortable with it AT HOME with their parent(s)/caregiver(s), it is highly unlikely they will be able to be successful if you throw car rides/school/daycare/new bathrooms/toilets at them on day two or three. The more blocks you pile on at once, the more potential the process crumbles like a Jenga tower. Instead, think links on a chain - give them time to fully master one element of the process before adding another link & expecting the chain to hold.
Adjusting your mindset to reflect reasonable expectations-& knowing that "reasonable" varies from child to child-will set you and your kiddo up for better success.
If you can only carve out a two or three day weekend, then we will work with what we have. Be prepared, however, that, while some kiddos have their lightbulb moment on days 1-3, others have it closer to or beyond day 7. Both are well within the range of normal. If your child has yet to hit that lightbulb moment and extra variables are piled atop their learning process such as school, errands, travel, etc., you may have a longer and messier point A to point B. Having reasonable expectations and carving out as much time as possible will make for a more seamless - not to mention less stressful - process.
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